This post was originally published at Restructure!
In Surely Youâ€™re Joking, Mr. Feynman!, chapter You Just Ask Them?, Richard Feynman frequented a bar and desired to have sexual intercourse with the women there. He discovered that the women in the bar did not provide sexual favors in exchange for monetary compensation in the form of drinks. Although he gained a reputation for spending money on drinks for women, he was frustrated at the fact that the women did not consider alcoholic drinks to be payment for sexual services.
Feynman felt he was being cheated, and complained to his two friends from the bar: a female nightclub entertainer and her husband, the master of ceremonies. The master offered Feynman lessons on how to ensure that a woman he meets in a bar has sexual intercourse with him:
â€œOK,â€ he says. â€œThe whole principle is this: The guy wants to be a gentleman. He doesnâ€™t want to be thought of as impolite, crude, or especially a cheapskate. As long as the girl knows the guyâ€™s motives so well, itâ€™s easy to steer him in the direction she wants him to go.
â€œTherefore,â€ he continued, â€œunder no circumstances be a gentleman! You must disrespect the girls. Furthermore, the very first rule is, donâ€™t buy a girl anything -- not even a package of cigarettes â€” until youâ€™ve asked her if sheâ€™ll sleep with you, and youâ€™re convinced that she will, and that sheâ€™s not lying.â€
â€œUhâ€¦ you meanâ€¦ you donâ€™tâ€¦ uhâ€¦ you just ask them?â€